
When I was a child, school always let out the second week of June. Even though the Summer Solstice doesn’t occur until June 21, the last day of school was the official beginning of summer for us kids. Since the United States no longer follows the traditional agrarian calendar for school, and the weather here in California is definitely not on a traditional schedule, my internal seasonal clock has changed and I am much more attuned to the natural circadian rhythms of my body.
Every living organism has a biological clock composed of specific molecules. Nearly every tissue and organ has its own biological clock. A primary clock in our brains keeps all these secondary clocks in sync by channeling messages received by our senses, most notably, sight. This is why most people’s sleep cycles correspond to natural light and dark. We notice the effect of circadian rhythms on our sleep patterns. The brain controls the production of melatonin, a hormone that makes us sleepy and serotonin, a hormone that moderates mood, digestion and healing. The brain clock receives information about incoming light from the optic nerves, which relay information from the eyes to the brain. When there is less light—for example, in the winter, when days are shorter— the brain makes more melatonin and less serotonin. We tend to sleep more and have less overall energy. The longer summer days provide more light, so we want to sleep less, eat less and play more.
As summer approaches, I am trying to adopt microchanges for well-being. One of these is to “follow the light.” I’m trying to set my alarm 5 minutes earlier each week, and use the extra time to incorporate more mindfulness, more meditation and more movement into my morning routine. In the evening, I am trying to begin my sleep rituals a little earlier as well. These small changes have definitely made an impact on my overall well-being. Here are a few microchanges you might try yourself:
Morning:
- Drink a glass of water as soon as you wake up. One glass of water increases energy and relieves fatigue. Our brains are mostly water, so drinking water helps us think, focus and concentrate better. Water improves our mood and our complexion and flushes out toxins!
- Add a “micro-meditation” to your morning. Take just five minutes to begin your morning with a “moment of mindfulness.” Meditation eases anxiety, reduces stress, fights inflammation and promotes overall emotional well-being.
- Set an intention for the day – in writing. When you set an intention in writing, it provides accountability and allows you to take control of your personal choices and life. Think about what you want to get out of the day – what kind of energy you want to attract. Ask yourself: What kind of person do I want to be today? What do I need to achieve today? What do I need to focus on to achieve my goals?
Anytime:
- Get outside! Try a ten-minute mindful walk. Inhale as you walk four steps. Exhale as you walk four steps. Over time, deepen your breaths and increase to six or eight steps.
- Eat one fruit or one vegetable at EVERY meal. This is easier than you think. Meal prep on Sundays and have small snack bags of blueberries, grapes, cuties or apple slices, as well as baby carrots, celery, broccoli or peppers portioned out and ready to go. I do the same with a variety of nuts, dried cranberries and a few chocolate chips for instant energy!
- Check in with friends or family. Text or call someone just to see how they’re doing. Practice listening actively and responding from the heart.
Evening:
- Take 5 minutes in the evening to tidy up. Set a timer and play some music. One chore in the evening decreases a day of cleaning on the weekend!
- Unplug and power off an hour before bedtime. The blue light emitted by our electronics (phones, tablets, computers) can impact our body’s ability to produce melatonin and prevent sleep.
- Read a chapter a day. Before you know it, you’ll have flown through your entire summer reading list.
- Reflect on gratitude – in writing. Just as setting a daily intention allows us to focus on the attitudes and achievements for each day, reflecting on even one tiny thing we can be thankful for at the end of each day can help us relax and retune our thoughts before attempting sleep. I know on my most challenging days, the anxiety I carry definitely affects my sleep. I’m not saying you can forget everything that’s weighing on your mind, but try “reframing” your challenges as opportunities for growth, change or even to test your strength and resilience.
As always, I am grateful each and every day for our staff and resource families as well as those who support you as you do this challenging and life-changing work, and for the opportunities we have to make positive, significant and lasting change in the lives of those we care for.
Cher Ofstedahl, CEO
Cher leads our agency which serves over 200 children and families daily through residential therapeutic services, mental health programs, foster care and adoption services. Cher advocates for children in need after experiencing her own childhood trauma. Her firsthand experience gives her unique insight into our mission to help children and families create a better future. Cher has been with Trinity Youth Services for over 20 years In 2019, Cher completed her master’s degree in ethical leadership from Claremont Lincoln University. Cher currently serves on the Human Relations Committee for the City of Claremont to help oversee their Diversity, Equity and Inclusion efforts, serves on the Policy and Practice Commission for the Child Welfare League of America (CWLA), is on the Juvenile Justice Steering Committee for the California Alliance for Children & Families, is a Design Thinking Department Advisor at University of California, Riverside and serves on the board for the Association of Community Human Service Agencies (ACHSA). In 2018, she was recognized by Senator Anthony Portantino as Outstanding Nonprofit Executive Director and, in 2022, Cher was named Woman of Distinction by Assemblymember Chris Holden.


Almost half a million children are in the foster care system in the United States. Fostering is one way to provide safety and stability for them as they wait to be placed with a permanent family through adoption. As such, becoming a foster parent can be rewarding for you and the child as you help them develop emotionally, physically, and socially. However, the Children’s Bureau reports that children in foster care are often victims of abuse and trauma and cannot remain safely in their homes. Consequently, this can create a challenge as a child who has faced abuse needs extra attention as they recover from the trauma they experienced.
This article will help you learn the basics of fostering a child affected by abuse and offer tips on how to work through some of the situations that come with this type of care:
1. Be patient
Patience is essential for any parenting situation, but even more so when fostering a child who has experienced the trauma of abuse. A study by the Children and Youth Services Review revealed that foster children are more likely to develop problems in their social-emotional functioning. This can manifest through physical aggression, depression, or lack of impulse control.
These behaviors can be frustrating for foster parents, but it’s crucial to remain kind and understanding as they work through their experiences and emotions. You can do this by practicing positive reinforcement and actively listening to their needs without coddling.
2. Provide therapy
Therapy can be an important part of the healing process. There are plenty of options for therapy, but one of the most common is grief counseling. An article on grief counseling by Maryville University explains that it can be a way for children to understand loss. It can help them cope with the complex emotions that can arise in the aftermath of trauma, including the permanent loss of their biological family and daily routines. Counseling techniques such as play and art help children understand and work through the complicated and confusing emotions they may feel as they transition to their new lives.
It is important to note that the methods most appropriate for a particular child will depend on various factors, including the child’s developmental level. Because of this, it is important to work with a mental health professional to determine the best course of treatment. Each child is assessed for their mental health needs upon placement at Trinity Youth Services, is assigned a team, and the youth is encouraged to create goals for their progress.
3. Establish a routine
A predictable routine can give children a sense of structure and stability and help them feel more in control of their environment. Routines help them feel safe as they settle into their new environment because they know what they can expect to happen throughout their day.
Although establishing routines can be tricky with busy schedules, it’s vital to remember that things like sleep, exercise, and meals are all crucial to their adjustment period. To start a routine, you can establish rules regarding meals and snacks, create a bedtime schedule, and plan meals for the week together.
4. Take care of yourself
When you foster a child who has been affected by abuse, it’s important to remember that it’s not your job to fix them. Your job is to give them a safe space and provide them with love and understanding so they can begin healing. As you do so, you also need to remember that you have limits and needs of your own.
Fostering a trauma-affected child can be emotionally and physically demanding. A study published by the National Library of Medicine notes that foster parents experience heightened parenting stress and a lack of emotional support. To this end, consider setting boundaries, finding help from other foster parents or therapists, and taking time for self-care.
Abusive situations can be incredibly traumatic for children in foster care. With empathy, compassion, and support, these children can heal and thrive in your home.
Anna Foster is a freelance writer specializing in education and childcare. She is an advocate for fostering and adoption. In her spare time, she volunteers for her local shelter and other charitable causes.


Trinity Youth Services (TYS) stands with the California Alliance of Child and Family Services in sharing the sorrow of the recent mass shooting in our community of Monterey Park. Our deepest sympathies to those who lost loved ones or who were injured in this senseless act of violence during a day intended for celebration and hope.
This devastating incident hits close to home with a TYS foster care office, staff, and families residing within Monterey Park. Our hearts go out to the community.
Any TYS staff or families affected by this tragic event will be assessed for their mental health needs and will be provided with therapeutic services by our compassionate and caring team.
It is more important than ever to support one another and to provide opportunities for healing. As an organization dedicated to advocating for children and families, as well as mental health and safety, here are a list of resources that can be accessed for those suffering from traumas impacting mental health:
- 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: 24/7 support and crisis resources; call, text, or chat 988
- Crisis Text Line: 24/7 support at your fingertips; text HOME to 741741
- The Trevor Project LGBTQ Hotline: 24/7 at 1-866-488-7386 or text START to 678-678
- Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
- Directory of Additional Helpline Resources from NAMI


The Trinity Youth Services Board of Directors is pleased to announce the approval of two new members.
“I believe in the power of individual change as well as the ability of the formerly incarcerated to become a productive citizen,” Derek says. “I find my passion in teaching others the things that I have learned through my experiences within the US Army and the California Department of Corrections and the years I have spend as a Parole Agent.
Now retired, Derek offers to lend his expertise in corrections to support Trinity’s programs. “I asked Derek to serve because he’s one of the most logical humans I know. He asks all the right questions,” says Trinity CEO, Cher Ofstedahl.
“I left to live in New York for a time where I found a passion for seeing the world and experiencing the many cultures,” Pat says. “Personally, my goal is to give back to others where I can help.”
“After my term as a board member at Crossroads, I felt that I have more to contribute to the greater good. Children in foster care need so much support and I am hoping that my skills can make a difference,” she says. “My heart aches to see anyone in pain, especially children who have been displaced or who have not experienced what it means to live in a loving environment.”
Join us in welcoming these two fantastic additions to our board.


“Everyone is getting on board,” says Program Director, Jennifer Artiga. “Everyone is excited to work with this population because they come with so many stories. They come with trauma that we all want to work with in hopes that we get them to a loving home environment. It’s been amazing to build a team.”
“These are youth that come from a variety of places in the world. They come by themselves through all the dangers and with nothing more than what is on them. Our job is to maintain them and keep them safe. They come with no relatives and our responsibility is to find their family and a proper home for them,” says Direct Care Supervisor, Jamie Acosta. “It’s rewarding to see that they are very happy here. They are very grateful.”
Our El Monte and Yucaipa staff look forward to serving these children as we enter 2023.


I’ve heard this statement time and time again: “Eve, I’d love to become a foster parent, but my partner does not approve.” Although I can definitely understand that this can be a sensitive issue that may spark a debate, I don’t believe that all is lost if your partner is less than thrilled about fostering.
Here’s what I know: So many people believe the myths they’ve heard or read about fostering or foster youth, but don’t truly know all of the facts. Giving your partner the facts on fostering, as well as being around happy foster parents, may convince them to try fostering. Here are some key tips to help your spouse become as excited as you are about fostering:
1. Don’t accept your spouse’s “No” response without obtaining more information. Ask them why they don’t want to foster. Is it fear? Lack of time? Worried about being overwhelmed? Asking them specific reasons why they oppose fostering will help you obtain the information you need to educate them about how to overcome that specific challenge.
2. Ask your significant other what would make them more open to fostering. Your partner may be able to state the reasons why they are opposed to fostering, but try to open their minds by asking them a different question. When you ask them what would make them open to fostering, you’ll learn what you’ll need to do to get to a “Yes” answer much faster.
3. Attend foster parent meetings. One of the best ways to get your partner on board to foster, is for them to be around positive foster parents who can talk to them about their experiences. This is key, because it will cause them to start imaging what’s possible as a foster parent. When your spouse hears stories that conflict with their current beliefs about fostering, they will start to question what they believe, and may start to be more open to fostering.
4. Show them positive videos of foster youth or foster families. Visually seeing other families similar to yours who are speaking highly of their foster youth, can help change your spouse’s perspective on fostering, especially if they are fearful of having a new child in the home, or are concerned about challenging behaviors.
5. Attend foster care orientations. Attending orientations is a great way of learning more about the certification process, and what to expect when a new child moves in. This may alleviate some apprehension from your spouse, because they will learn about the process in a more detailed way, and understand that they will receive 24-7 support, and so much more. They can also address their concerns and get the answers they need to move forward in their fostering journey.
6. Sign up to become a respite parent. If your partner is hesitant about fostering due to having a busy schedule, discussing respite care may be a great starting point! With respite care, you are able to care for a child when your schedule permits, and you’ll be able to see if fostering full time is right for you.
If you’d like to learn more, please schedule an appointment when it is convenient for you and your spouse.
Eve has a strong commitment to helping foster youth and their families thrive and live successful lives. A former foster youth, Eve obtained her bachelor’s and master’s degree in Communications from California State University, San Bernardino, and is a certified Holistic Life Coach, motivational writer, self-help author and celebrity interviewer. Beyond the Trinity Youth Services blog, Eve’s articles can be found in numerous platforms including Foster Focus Magazine, Heart & Soul Magazine, BET Centric and Huffington Post. A passionate advocate for the LGBTQ community, Eve continues to educate, support and mentor foster youth throughout Southern California.


Some youth may even become triggered, especially if they’ve already experienced violence and loss in their homes. Although we cannot control what happens in the world, we do have the power to empower our youth with the skills they need to increase the odds of their safety and well-being. Here are a few ways you can help your youth stay safe.
- Have an honest talk about gun violence: For a lot of parents, having discussions about the harsh realities of the world can seem overwhelming. However, not talking about what’s going on in the world, or ignoring it, can actually do more harm than good. Gun violence isn’t going away, and youth are often one of the biggest targets perpetrators look for. Be sure to start an open dialogue about gun violence with your child. Ask them questions about how they are feeling regarding hearing about violence and how it’s affecting them. Ask them what they need to feel safe. To help your child feel safe with expressing their feelings, you may try describing a time in your life when you’ve witnessed or experienced violence, and how you handled it (if it was a positive approach).
- Educate Your Youth: Talk to youth about some warning signs to look out for, which can include someone expressing rage in an unhealthy manner, talking about hurting others or getting revenge. Encourage teens to stay away from crime-ridden areas, and to come home at a reasonable hour. Encourage youth to always be aware of their surroundings and pay attention to and report anything that looks suspicious.
- Develop a plan of action that include all probable scenarios that could happen, such as a shooting at a school, a park, a mall, etc. Go over the most important actions youth can take to protect themselves. Have them look for places they can go that might be safe if violence strikes. Have them think about the exit points in public places.
- Consider Active Shooter Classes: See if your community offers classes to help youth learn the skills they need to keep themselves safe around an active shooter.
- Some perpetrators target victims who seem naïve or timid. So have your child practice good body language, and to maintain good eye contact. Encourage them to speak clearly, and with authority, especially in public settings. Taking self-defense classes may help some youth gain more confidence and help them feel more secure in public.
- If gun violence is affecting your child’s mental health, and they’ve experienced past trauma, consider signing them up to see a therapist who specializes in trauma. Some youth need to speak with a trusted professional who can help them learn specific coping skills that will help them feel more secure, and to also heal from their past childhood wounds.
Eve has a strong commitment to helping foster youth and their families thrive and live successful lives. A former foster youth, Eve obtained her bachelor’s and master’s degree in Communications from California State University, San Bernardino, and is a certified Holistic Life Coach, motivational writer, self-help author and celebrity interviewer. Beyond the Trinity Youth Services blog, Eve’s articles can be found in numerous platforms including Foster Focus Magazine, Heart & Soul Magazine, BET Centric and Huffington Post. A passionate advocate for the LGBTQ community, Eve continues to educate, support and mentor foster youth throughout Southern California.


A Message from the CEO:
Happy June! Where did the first half of 2022 go? I am finding it hard to believe there are only 206 shopping days until Christmas!
I hope we will all take the time to reflect upon the fathers and father figures in our lives and thoughtfully observe our newest federal holiday, Juneteenth, as these two events both fall on Sunday, June 19.
Last year I shared that Juneteenth is a commemoration of the end of slavery in the United States. Although President Abraham Lincoln issued the Emancipation Proclamation on September 22, 1862, it was not until June 19, 1865 that all slaves were finally freed. Slavery was formally abolished by the thirteenth amendment to the Constitution, which was proclaimed six months later.
Juneteenth is also a time for assessment, self-improvement and planning for the future. Only by truthfully acknowledging a period in our history that brought both shape and shame to our country can we ensure that we will build a better, brighter future for our country, without doing so on the backs of our fellow citizens.
Until children of color are no longer disproportionately represented in the Foster Care system, Trinity Youth Services will continue to advocate for better and more accessible programs, services and resources for those in need, beginning prior to a child being removed from their home.
June is also Pride month and began as a commemoration of the Stonewall Uprising which became a tipping point for the Gay Liberation movement. In the early hours of June 28, 1969, police raided the Stonewall Inn, a Greenwich Village bar. The raid turned violent and became the catalyst for a series of riots and protests that lasted days, as the Queer community rallied for the right to live and love openly and authentically.
Did you know that from 1947 to 1950, Gays and Lesbians were added to the “blacklists” created by the US State Department? Their names were added to those of suspected anarchists and communists and were deemed “subversive” and “un-American.” Throughout the 50s and 60s, laws were enacted, specifically targeting the queer community, and from 1952 to 1974, homosexuality was listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) as a mental disorder. These, and so many other examples serve as reminders of how humanity has historically tried to demean, disregard and demonize those who do not look, worship or think like the majority.
This June, as we inch toward the longest day of the year and the sun shines brightest, let us bask in the light, knowing that the same sun shines on each of us the same way. Our nation’s newest (and youngest) Poet Laureate, Amanda Gorman, wrote the following words, which speak loudly to me as I write this, “For there is always light. If only we’re brave enough to see it. If only we’re brave enough to be it.”
Have a brave, happy June!
Cher Ofstedahl, CEO
Cher leads our agency which serves over 200 children and families daily through residential therapeutic services, mental health programs, foster care and adoption services. Cher advocates for children in need after experiencing her own childhood trauma. Her firsthand experience gives her unique insight into our mission to help children and families create a better future. Cher has been with Trinity Youth Services for over 20 years In 2019, Cher completed her master’s degree in ethical leadership from Claremont Lincoln University. Cher currently serves on the Human Relations Committee for the City of Claremont to help oversee their Diversity, Equity and Inclusion efforts, serves on the Policy and Practice Commission for the Child Welfare League of America (CWLA), is on the Juvenile Justice Steering Committee for the California Alliance for Children & Families, is a Design Thinking Department Advisor at University of California, Riverside and serves on the board for the Association of Community Human Service Agencies (ACHSA). In 2018, she was recognized by Senator Anthony Portantino as Outstanding Nonprofit Executive Director and, in 2022, Cher was named Woman of Distinction by Assemblymember Chris Holden.


For over a decade, the child welfare community has celebrated June as National Reunification Month. The American Bar Association (ABA) Center on Children and the Law and other national partners created the National Reunification Month in 2010, as the most desirable and positive legal permanency option for children. According to recent data, reunifications is the permanency option achieved by most children in the child welfare system.
Reunification month is an incredible opportunity for the child welfare system to commit to resource families and children’s parents working together to provide children and youth with the critical love and support they need. It is an opportunity to use the compassion and skills of resource families across the country to encourage and promote safe reunification, where possible, and to remain engaged with children and parents after reunification to provide ongoing support.
On average, Trinity Youth Services successfully reunifies over 30 families each year. We join with thousands of professionals, foster parents and organizations to promote, celebrate and raise awareness about the importance of family reunification to children in foster care. We recognize the people and efforts around the country that help families to stay together and support the child welfare community:
- To celebrate the accomplishments of families who have overcome an array of challenges to reunify safely and successfully.
- To recognize the vital role that community partners – including mental health and substance abuse providers, courts and judges, foster parents and others – play in helping to reunify, strengthen and support families.
- To inspire other parents – particularly those going through the recovery process – that it is possible to confront and resolve the issues that led to their separation, and to reunify with their children.
All children need the care, love, security and stability of family unity, including parents, siblings, grandparents and other extended family members to provide them with a solid foundation for personal growth, development, maturity and happiness.
John is the former CEO of Trinity Youth Services and holds bachelor’s and master’s degrees from CSUSB. He is a veteran and received the Army Commendation Medal. John was a teacher, union president, assistant principal, principal, and district office administrator in the public schools, and a management and leadership consultant to public agencies and private industry. He is the former CEO of Advanced Education Services, establishing and operating nonpublic and charter schools. John was recognized by the Center for Entrepreneurship as the winner of the Social Entrepreneur of the Year in 2016. He is an active volunteer in his community, having served on city and county commissions. He is currently the Chairman of the Children’s Foundation of America and writes a monthly history column for the local newspaper.



A Message from the CEO:
The concept I associate most with Spring – even late Spring, is, of course, change. In California, we really don’t experience the significant changes in weather other regions enjoy. However, subtle changes are taking place everywhere around us, and even small changes can bring about huge results. Nowhere is this more prevalent than at Trinity Youth Services.
This past month, Trinity team members from every location and every level of the organization collaborated on a new four-year strategic plan that will guide the agency through some very significant changes. I believe the strategic planning process is always a good exercise. It provides the agency with an opportunity to review and reconnect to our mission (what we do), our vision (what we want to be at our best) and our values (what drives us forward, even when the burdens seem to outweigh the benefits).
The team overwhelmingly supported keeping the mission statement intact. We still believe the statement, “Helping children and families create a better future,” aptly describes what the agency does, at its core. However, our vision statement changed dramatically. In the past, the vision statement reflected a desire to be the first choice for funders and placing agencies, and yes, that is still important, because it signifies those stakeholder groups that keep us in business, financially, have enough confidence in us to invest in our success. However, the team felt it was more important to declare that the agency, at its very best, is what we provide to children and families, how we prepare them for the “better future” our mission statement describes. Our vision statement now reflects our desires:
To cultivate an environment of compassionate quality care.
To plant seeds of hope and resiliency.
To nurture the development of children and families empowered for success.
The primary values of the agency have changed very little. The driving forces of the agency continue to be stated as follows:
We value safety, well-being and permanency for children, youth, and families.
We value embracing research, best practices and proven approaches that help children and youth.
We value employees and will provide them with the knowledge, skills, and tools to be successful.
We value the ability to adapt and change to the needs of those we serve.
We value open, honest, and transparent governance and management practices.
The decision was made to add two additional statements. One that reflects the agency’s commitment to ensuring the children and families we serve receive the highest quality programs and services, without regard for race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, ability or any other factor, and, as an agency, we will strive to recruit, retain and provide opportunity for promotion to staff that reflect, represent and inspire those we serve.
We value Diversity, Inclusion and Equity in all we do.
The second additional statement declares Trinity’s gratitude for the numerous partnerships that assist us and enable us to fulfill our mission. This includes the board of directors, staff, volunteers, vendors, placing agencies, governing and monitoring entities, donors, and community supporters.
We value the relationships with all stakeholder groups that enable us to do this good work.
I believe the strategic planning team’s changes help to ensure the mission, vision and value statements of Trinity Youth Services accurately represent the intentionality with which we should all strive to approach work that is truly meaningful. Reading these words inspires me and makes me proud to be associated with the agency and with each and every one of our staff.
Caterpillars are always inching their way toward becoming their best and most beautiful selves. At Trinity Youth Services, we should do no less. Wishing everyone a happy May and a wonderful springtime season.
View the full 2022-2026 Strategic Plan published here.
Cher Ofstedahl, CEO
Cher leads our agency which serves over 200 children and families daily through residential therapeutic services, mental health programs, foster care and adoption services. Cher advocates for children in need after experiencing her own childhood trauma. Her firsthand experience gives her unique insight into our mission to help children and families create a better future. Cher has been with Trinity Youth Services for over 20 years In 2019, Cher completed her master’s degree in ethical leadership from Claremont Lincoln University. Cher currently serves on the Human Relations Committee for the City of Claremont to help oversee their Diversity, Equity and Inclusion efforts, serves on the Policy and Practice Commission for the Child Welfare League of America (CWLA), is on the Juvenile Justice Steering Committee for the California Alliance for Children & Families, is a Design Thinking Department Advisor at University of California, Riverside and serves on the board for the Association of Community Human Service Agencies (ACHSA). In 2018, she was recognized by Senator Anthony Portantino as Outstanding Nonprofit Executive Director and, in 2022, Cher was named Woman of Distinction by Assemblymember Chris Holden.